Saturday, June 20, 2009
A new marathon (but I hate running)
Here is a list of the top 10 things We don't miss from China
10. Hard beds. For some reason, The hotels we had in China have really hard beds, thin sheets, and you could probably bounce a coin on the bed.
09. Second hand smoke: Cough, cough, it's sad to see so many people smoke and in restaurants. What's the difference between a smoking and non-smoking section in a Chinese restaurant? Wrong, all they do is take away your ash tray, and now your table is a non-smoking area (surrounded by tables with people smoking. Yuck. ) Sadly, you can buy cases of cigarettes
while you're in an airplane.
08. Cabs. When you enter a cab, it's like going into our dog's crate. It's small cramp and their
are big bars between you and the driver. The driver goes in a direction as erratic as our daughter walks. The traffic here is a living miracle where there are hardly any accidents.
Only here in Zhengzhou where you can cross a 6 lane major intersection and walk diagonally.
07. Grease and oil. All the restaurants here use a lot of grease/oil in their cooking. If you asked for less oil, the omelets would stick to the pan and the pancakes would be permanent fixtures on the top of the stove. I drank a lot of soda to wash down the grease. Fortunately, I love soda.
06. The lack of ice cubes. When you are hot and thirsty. When you are in humid conditions and drenched in sweat from walking or coming out of a bus with no air conditioning. That's the time I want to scream because all I have is a can of warm soda (shaken, not stirred) in my backpack.
05. The lack of ice cream. We spent $12 for Arlene to have a big ice cream sundae. At least it was big in the menu. By the time they brought it out is was have the size of the picture in the menu and Arlene started to quote a phrase that we heard from a old Wendy's commercial. Instead of where's the beef? It was where's the ice cream? This was the time, when Zhang Rui learned that ice cream was a good thing to eat and she wanted more!
04. Aggressive sales people. When we shopped at Guangzhou (Sharmin Island), the salespeople at the shops are overly friendly in trying to help you spend your money. Whenever you ask about a tshirt, they immediately open a brand new package to pull out the tshirt knowing you may feed obligated to buy it. Bartering can be fun if you can shop as a team. If your spouse says I'll take it, you lost your chance to save 20%. Often I didn't want to barter because the economy is so poor and they need to make a living too. Warning: some of their products may look great but soak them first! Our red tshirts bled.
03. Sewer systems that drain to nowhere. When we went walking to restaurants or shopping with our new friends, I notice they had people (young and old) near many manholes with long poles with hooks. They were pulling up the sludge buildup in the sewer and putting it in buckets for a central collection point (near my favorite Thai restaurant). Needless to say, even N95 masks won't block out that odor.
02. Squat toilets. Overall, we were spoiled and had flushed toilets for most of our trip. The cleanest squats was at Beijing at the olympic stadiums. I had never seen a portapotty squat
toilet with bubbles inside. If you really have to go and would faint at a squat toilet, I recommend you going to a special needs (Handicapp) toilet. Those come closest to the US toilet.
01. Drinkable Water. I try to drink a lot of water to stay hydrated. I hate the idea of hoarding bottle water but that's what I did. You can never have enough good safe water to drink. I was really happy that the hotels provided 2 free bottles a day. That kept us going for Rui's baby formula bottles. Boiled water just tasted funny and had weird floaties on top. I would buy a gallon at each hotel we were at. I wish China would recycle more. There is a tremendous waste in just bottle water plastics. I love our water in the US and especially in SF and Sacramento is good too.
Friday, June 12, 2009
Mission accomplished.
We feel like we completed an Apollo space mission, where we rode (a manmade and extremely complex device) a vehicle an extremely long distance to bring back something much more precious that space rooks. Another analogy is that we made the home run and Rui is now in Sacramento.
The airplane ride turned out to be uneventful. We even got to taste a kids meal. It's hard to eat one meal on top of another. Rui enjoyed reading The Wall street journal and Discovery magazines and we were at poopcon 4 alert and we wanted to avoid a hazmat emergency landing due to many people being overcome by a mysterious poopy tear gas odor. Instead a senior citizen had a "P" problem and the stewardess really had their work cut out cleaning the mess from his car seat and the aisle leading to the bathroom toilet. It was not a pretty sight. It was really intense to see the workers walking quickly back and forth with white gloves on and lots of plastic bags and towels., etc. I thought they were going to use a fire extinguisher to deodorize the mess., If you didn't know better, it gave the appearance that they were doing surgury back there.
Rui was set to errupt and we were ready to respond fast. We had to do it before it errupted beyond the barriers of the bassenet. It's really difficult to change a poopy diaper in an airplane. Rui hardly cried (until the big one), and actually slept in the bassinet in front of us. When she did do the big one, it was a level 3 alert (meaning it filled the diaper and no more..... phew). But where could we change her? She was too big for the bathroom. When we brought our concerns to the staff they told us we could use the business class bathroom (big whoopee and 2-4 inches more). Wow we needed it. It turns out that Rui had really dirty feet and she left her marks on the wall. I had to stay afterwards to do the hazmat wipe down. That was our biggest hurdle and we did it with one breadth (maybe two.) The stewardess, afterwards, rushed to spray deorderizer and flower scents to make the bathroom more survivable for the next person.
She got an verbal award today. She is now the Poop queen, because she did 4 big ones in one day. yuck! Hmm, maybe she has traveler's diarrhea. Well we're back and exhausted. We hope to adjust to the time schedule in Calif. in the next few days. Chris has all ready awarded her the drama queen award. I know Father's day is coming soon. Maybe I'll get a set of those high tech headphones that filter out unwanted noises (likes screams, crying, whining, and yelling!). If they don't exist, someone should invent them..
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
The Home Stretch
This afternoon two bus load of adoption families went to the US consulate for the swearing in of the oath. Everyone was really nervous and made the humid weather even stinkier. The actual event was quite boring and we weren't allow to take pictures mainly because of security or because it was so anti-climatic.
Well we are rounding 3rd base and now heading home. Wow we purchased a travel case for rue and it's already full. Time for me to sign out to pack and sit on some cases to make it fill. Hmm this may be a all nighter. See you all soon.
Loy and Arlene.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Approaching Third Base!
The days of a luxury breakfast buffet will be gone in a flash. In another day and a half we will be on a plane hopefully back to the states and not be quarantine like some mayor I read about. Every family will need to endure a 14 hour or more flight back home. I'm thinking of buy a bunch of earplugs for the surrounding seats near Rui. We sure miss Thumper. We hear that she doesn't miss us much. We hope to differ.
I also discovered an annoying fact. The more I listen to Rui screaming in my ear, the more white hairs pop up on my head. I made a new scientific discovery! Do you think it's the screaming or is it stress or is it caused by the heavy load put on our arms? Arlene has a cool child carrier called an ERGO, and it really works well. She can carry Rui with no back stress. We both had to watch the DVD to figure out how to make it work.
Arlene decided to go soverneir hunting today and I did a little too...... Arlene puchase these cool marble like chops (rock signature blocks) and had them engraved with chinese names. Man are they heavy! Prices for things really vary here. She bought some clothes and boy are they bulky. I purchased a dvd on Tai Chi for 25 rmb and then spent 50 rmb for a Subway sandwich meal deal. Where's the logic in that price scheme?
Sadly some stores here are going out of business due to the low number of permitted adoptions and the knowledge that the main White Swan hotel will be renovating soon. There are a lot less families here shopping and business for them is slow. It's a little bit weird when every store is eyeing you and yelling at you to come in to their store. Everyone calls us "my friend, my friend come in..... I give you best price."
Oh no, our suitcases are now over the weight limit! What are we going to do? How did our cases get soo heavy. Perhaps the humidity made all our clothes heavier. I think that's why there is no scale in this room. Should we lose the chops? I wasn't going to panic. I'll super google an answer. Hey, I just found out that Rui is also allowed a check in (hurrah!) for 22 lbs. Ya Hoo! Now we can bring back more junk, uh, I meant quality stuff. I was planning to throw all non-essential stuff like our H1N1 masks, baby wipes (very heavy) and diapers (space hogs). Well it's time to shop more tomorrow to buy Rui her very own suitcase with wheels! I need one with a remote control that will follow us around like Thumper.
Well time for me to go. Hope the swearing in at the US consulate goes well.
Loy
Monday, June 8, 2009
Guangzhou, Day 2
If you watch action movies you will know that defcon1 through defcon5 means the possibility of military action due to a major incident, leading to the possibility of war. Well today we were doing a humorous version in that where we where at PoopCon3. Rui had eaten a ton of food for breakfast and we were afraid that she would do the big one at the med clinic. Everytime she drank a bottle of milk, the big #2 would surely come. Well we survived the medical exam. She gave us the bomb while we were walking back from the med center. (P-you). We were at a shop on our way back and they wouldn't let us leave. We said we have to go change Rui's diaper, and they kept saying "you buy at 160, good deal, really low price, how about 135? I said we had to go and offered 100 rmb. Guess who won? They did. Fortunately the huggies brand diaper held it all in, and we saved 60 rmb dollars thanks to a poopy diaper!
Sunday, June 7, 2009
Guangzhou!
We've been in Guangzhou for roughly a day and a half and it's a very interesting place. We arrived at the airport surrounded in 94 degree heat mixed with high humidty, pollution, and a lot of smokers. Asthma spray here I come. We felt like swimming in the air. We eventually adjusted to the weather a little. My job title advance to pack mule, surgeon assistance, chemist, pack organizer and magician.
In a diaper change, I'm the surgeon assistance and magician. Arlene would call out and I would repeat what she said. "Poopy?, poopy; Pad, pad; Diaper, diaper; Wipes, wipes. Oh no, we have a hazmat emergency, break out the emergency pack, breaking out the emergency pack; Hazmat contained! hurrah! deodorized poop bag, bag; Activate decon wipes, decon wipes. Yea, we're done. High five! Sometimes I feel like a magician because things have to miraculously come out of my mule pack. We won't tell you our airplane adventure where the passenger in front of Rui was leaning forward as far away from her screaming or how she made such a mess that the stewardess kept giving me napkins or how they need a shopvac to clean the lunch they gave us.
Saturday we flew to Guangzhou and arrived around 3 pm to their smoggy airport. Thankfully we didn't have to take the H1N1 scans. They use buses to drive us from the landing area to the luggage area. We took roughly 5-6 hours of waiting in lines, and the flight to get to the famous White Swan around 4 pm. We were exhausted and hungary. Our new guide said, attention here is a bottle of water, and we will be taking visa photos at 5 pm and we will be walking to the studio. Aaagghh. It was a long day.
The room we had was really nice and had beds as hard as military cots. I'm glad I brought Advil for my back. For a high tech person, I coudn't figure out how to turn on/off lights for 10 minutes! Internet cost is 100 rmb/day or 300rmb/week. I was one of the last big spenders! By the morning we had drank all our drinking water and there were no sundry shops in the hotel and I was too cheap to spend $10 us on water from the mini refrigerator.
The buffet here is fantastic. The food is now more 70% english and 30% chinese. We prefer the previous buffet. They provided tatertots, brownies, peaches, ham, and italian curry trianglar wrapped pizzas?? We had the perfect view of the bay watching mechanical ships and boats manually picking up the hyacyins out of the water. I was busy reloading my empty water bottles with water because I didn't have time to buy drinking water and I heard these chinese attendant ladies talking impolitely about me about the water (they were smirking that I was a tightwad, etc..) and they were smiling at me the whole time. I had the urge to scold them in chinese but I only knew enough words to get me in trouble, so I didn't. I should have quietly walk up to them and smiled at them and said, I undertood everything you said about me and then walk away. They would've freaked out. When we shop, I try to talk to the staff and I'm surprise they understand my Cantonese.
We visited a local Christian church (across the street from the hotel) and really enjoy the service
at 11am. It was jam packed and delightful. Rui didn't complain at all (she slept for part of the sermon). We did a small amount of shopping. I hope the dvds I purchased aren't contraband! Of course not! I have receipts.
We took the visa photographs for the children yesterday and photos of all the families and then all the kids, and then the whole kitten kaboodle. It was completely fun, crazy, stressful at the same time. We made enough noise to attact the attention for the whole floor. We were all yelling out "CHEEZE" for roughly 20 cameras!
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Bonus Post
4th Day in Zhengzhou
We had the option to visit the Shaolin Temple today and we went. The group started small and grew to roughly14 people. This was good because it also lowered the price. The temple was roughly 1.5 hours away and it was roughly a half day trip, which later became a 3/4 day trip.
The temple has been updated and fairly clean. The show was good and they demonstrated their skills and the buildings or temples we visited were also nice. The facility was spread out. They charged 20rmb (Arlene and myself) to drive you and your group via tram cart from one location to another location. (20 rmb for a 5 minute ride? What a deal/racket for them... I think our group spent (14 x 60 rmb) for transpo alone.
The temple is well commercialized now and that's kinda sad. A lady stumbled down some steps and a monk just watched. I was hoping to learn more of the kungfu arts and styles and buy some books but that was not the case. You could buy a real sword, but I would have problems bringing itback to the US. The pollution was noticeable and made it hard to take good pictures of the mountains. A number of us had bug bites, but we didn't really see the mosquitoes. They must have been Shaolin mosquitoes that bit us using their kungfu bites. haha.
Our guide recommended us to let me feed Rui dinner while mom took a break outside the room for a break.It was an opportunity for her to bond with me. Was this a successful and possible goal? Of course. I failed big time. She cried for 25 minutes and fell asleep in my arms from crying. Hey! You're suppose to feel sorry for me, not Rui. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. I can only stand for soo much rejection.
I was going to post a pic of a squat toilet but thot that was a bit gross. Beijing's squat porta potties were more interesting. and a whole lot cleaner (if you really have to go, you may opt to go in one that's designed a little bigger for additional needs). If you really want to see it, post me back a response.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
First Night at Zhengzhou from Arlene
Hello all-
Loy's been the main writer on the blog since we left -it was his idea so he's been the main historian. Now that we have Zhang Rui- I'll chime in too.
It's 6:45 am and we're waiting for her to wake up so we can hit the breakfast buffet. I'm all ready- have her clothes laid out, wearing my ergo carrier thinking today I'll give my arms a rest. She's bonded to me (I heard all the caretakers at her orphanage were mainly women) and yesterday I carried her about 2 miles through the sidewalks of
Yesterday was our Gotcha Day - It was also a Chinese holiday -Children's Day so we saw numerous carnivals around town. The other 10 families got their children in the morning at 10 am -so we went to join in the momentous moment and took lots of pictures. The night before we joined with 3 other couples praying for our new children -and for peace to reign for them as they join our new families- I could truly see how God answered that prayer . Of course there was inconsolable crying for some, but there was a lot of joking, horseplay and running around for others- The range of children were from 9 mos to 10 years old- with the majority being toddlers. 5 of the children were already there when we arrived, but we had to wait for another group from an orphanage van that went to the wrong place. It was quite a site seeing the van drive up and all the cameras out catching the moment of them getting out of the vehicle. We would make great papparazzi!
Our girl Zhang Rui was going to arrive late at around 330 pm we were told. She had a long way to travel- from the southern portion of
Never had time to finish yesterday's blog- Zhang Rui's been adjusting fairly well. We have her laughing, playing peek a boo, playing dress up, piling up her plastic cups and now sh'e turning the pages of her mirror book- looking at herself in each page. She had an episode during the night where she cried for about 20 min non stop. I think she had way too much stimulation yesterday (Walmart, bus rides, walking through town), and we're trying to keep things real low key today. Maybe she had a bad dream, or is missing her life at the orphanage. She's been eating and pooping well - We have much to be grateful for- Thanks for your prayers and support- Until later- Arlene
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Adoption Day
Today is a special day where we make our adoption official and the group was leaving at 0930 am. We had to wake up Rui so we could eat at the hotel breakfast buffet. We got to the buffet around 815. We didn't realize that it would take us 2-3 times longer to eat. We spent most of our time exploring what Rui ate and almost forgot to eat ourselves. It is impossible to enjoy a buffet breakfast in 15 minutes. Tomorrow we plan to spend 2-3 hours there to eat (haha). My cool photography vest has been converted to a diaper vest (not very macho....ha!). I also learned that bottles leak (when they fall over in your pocket) and that is soo not cool. We were rushed to eat, rushed to get the right stuff to register and notorize documents for Rui. We had no time for lunch and ate dinner around 8pm.
After going to the registration office (same location where most of the children were delivered), we went to the notary office. I think it's an official government building. We had to climb up 6 big flights of stairs and everyone was in such a fantastic mood that I felt I was in a dream. Huffing and puffing up the stairs reminded me of the reality that it was not a dream. Walking back in 90 degree, super bright,humid, and in full traffic was no picnic. We spent time playing dodgeball with the scooters driving on the sidewalk. I felt like target practice. People would look at us, or our caucasian friends and point at us and create a traffice jam. I felt like yawning and doing a full stretch clobbering the scooters driving by too close to us. But I didn't. Some older people would come soo close to us that I thought they were either pickpockets or trying to smell us.
Our reward for finalizing our local documents for adoption was to go to a brand new Walmart that opened in May 2009. We took our rented bus there to shop for 1.5 hours and then took the same bus back. It's a drag to buy drinking water ( I appreciate where I work even more DDWEM) because it's soo heavy, because you have to carry it in plastic bags. I spent 178 rmbs for water, snacks, and soda. Some parents are already getting tired carrying their child and three families purchased a small stroller. Arlene is in great shape and with her special ERGO child carrier, we hope to avoid buying a stroller. We learned the average monthly salary here is 1100 rmb a month. We spent roughly $600 rmb on formula and donations of clothes to Rui's orphanage. I understand more now how, in their perspective, they see us as being rich.
I was looking for butterfinger bars , granola bars, chocolate bars and kungfu dvd movies and didn't find any snacks, just the typical asian crackers. The dvd movies didn't have english subtitles and were 14rmb (2.50 us). As long as I buy dvds from walmart and not peddlers, I should have no problems with customs. I'm hoping to visit another shopping type mall (with AC) to relax and shop for nick knacks.
Ending today's blog on a funny note, guess what is the name of the restaurant they have here for their non-super fancy meals? They just serve really nice meals there. It's called Mamma Mia!